If you are in an online relationship, you may have wished that you were simply able to meet your friend face-to-face. If you are interested in dating but have been having trouble meeting the right person, you may have wondered if Internet dating is for you. Which is easier? Or is dating just difficult in general?
A video about how difficult offline dating can be recently became quite popular online. One reason that is so surprising is that the video was not focused on INTERNET dating, which has occasionally gotten a bad rap. It is almost impossible to give you the full picture of the video here, but essentially, it is about how difficult it is attempting to find a love match traditionally, when so many people are actively trying online dating.
After I watched the video, I started to think about how our society has progressed in the past few decades. Is offline dating really considered to be the traditional method of meeting someone? Has online dating taken off to the point that it is considered the most popular way to meet someone? If that is the case, and online dating has exploded that much, it makes more sense to help people navigate the tricky world of offline dating than it does to give them advice on online dating.
Why is online dating simpler than offline dating? Well, with offline dating, you have to be in the right place at the right time in order to make a match with another person. You have to be in the same location as another single person, you both have to be interested in finding someone to date, and you both have to like the other person enough to want to connect with them again through a phone call or a date. When you find someone online, a lot of those variables are taken out of the equation. It’s just a little easier, even though you still need to be a match mentally and physically if you want to carry on a relationship with the person.
ONLINE VS. OFFLINE
When you meet someone in person, you have to find the perfect time to ask them if you can see them again. When you are speaking to someone online, there are usually a number of such opportunities, because you are in near constant contact. You send each other messages and emails, and you may even talk instantly over a chat feature. You can tell if the other person is interested by how quickly and how often they respond to you. Then, you can segue into a first date. It does not happen that seamlessly, however, in the “real” world.
That attractive girl you spot in the coffee shop may be heading out of town. The good looking guy you saw outside work may be on his way to hang out with his buddies. Even though you are interested, these individuals may not be single or they may not be interested in dating. There are a lot of different things you have to consider; simply finding someone that you are interested in is only the first piece of the puzzle.
Safety also comes into play here. Lets say you were out taking a walk one afternoon by yourself. A guy comes up to you and asks you to have dinner with him. Even if you are interested, and feel a little chemistry, you might say no simply because you have no idea who that person is. If the situation were reversed, and it was a guy that was asked out, the situation might be a little different. However, it is still unlikely that there will be a positive ending because the element of control is taken away from you.
You were probably minding your own business and the question came out of no where. You may be confused about what is happening because it just doesn’t occur that often. The word “no” flows out easily in these types of situations. However, online, it is a different story! You are ready to be asked out; that is one of the reasons you are online in the first place. Of course, safety still comes into play – you want to meet in a public space – but all control has not been taken from you.
There are several reasons why online dating is preferable and more popular to offline dating. However, offline dating can still be a lot of fun as well. Regardless of how you choose to do it, just make sure you stay safe and have a great time!