Haven’t been on a date in a while and are stressed out? Don’t worry; first dates are stressful in any case. When another person is involved in any case, things don’t work out the way you planned.
There are so many things you have to get across on the first date and let’s not even talk about the fact that the person is a complete stranger. So many questions running in your head till before you see them in flesh. Then there is the whole “will he/she like me?” kind of thing. It’s no surprise how many dates are a disaster.
With online dating, there is the other worry of the person not looking like their photo and the only way to find out is to wait and wait. So let’s just accept the fact that there isn’t much you can do about the other person but you have control over you which is why you need to prepared for anything that comes your way.
Here is a guide to advise you on what to avoid on your first date!
THE 5 FIRST DATE QUESTIONS
1. What’s inspiring you right now?
2. Who do you look up to and why?
3. What’s in your fridge right now? (what?)
4. What book would to recommend to take on a holiday?
5. What did you like about me that made you want to go on a date? (moment of truth, right)
Some of those questions might feel out of place when there are so many other things that you can ask. Continue reading to see why these questions are necessary.
How many dates work out for you according to your personal ratio? It’s a fair number right. If dates didn’t mess up, then you would be married and had three kids with the first person you ever dated. If time is money for you and aren’t intending on wasting it, then remember those questions. If you like to move fast and are looking to settle down, then you need analyze faster and reach a decision whether or not there is a future with your date. These questions will analyze how compatible you are, what you have in common and what the other person is looking for.
Compatibility is what everyone’s looking for.
Circumstances and wants of every individual are different and what you might be looking for may not be what the other person wants. The first date is crucial and then comes the prospect of second date and whether this is “the one”. Nobody’s going to judge you if you decide on the first date whether or not the other person is marriage material. The thing is romance has an expiration date on it and we only day this is the realistic sense. Being compatible and still wanting to be with each other after the romance phase is what most people are looking for. This can be established on the first date although you aren’t getting married the next day (don’t get any ideas) or finding your soul mate.
ROMANTIC VS PRAGMATIC
Being practical can be considered boring when it comes to romance. Everyone wants a fairytale romance and “rainbows, unicorn and sunshine”. But the second date has to be thought about and when better than the first date. In doing so, the above mentioned questions can come in very handy in case you have nothing to talk about or you simply like to reach conclusions fast. Chances are, everybody has a list of questions they like to ask their dinner companion on the first date.